A friend at work shares that she receives blunt feedback from her boss.
She was offended not by the feedback but by her boss’s tonality and directness.
During the conversation, the boss kept saying she was just being authentic and nothing personal.
She shared that she could have done it moreย ๐ง๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐ณ๐๐น๐น๐ ๐๐ถ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐,ย and she would gladly receive the feedback and take action.
She lost the respect of her boss, and her boss had lost the trust of a member in the name of authenticity.
๐ฅย ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฆ๐ฝ๐ถ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐ง๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐ณ๐๐น๐น๐ ๐๐ถ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐
Being authentic does not give the person the right to speak whatever is on their mind.
๐๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ช๐ด ๐ท๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต๐ช๐ฏ๐จ, ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ช๐ค๐ฉ ๐ช๐ด ๐ข ๐ญ๐ข๐ป๐บ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐ด๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ ๐ฑ๐ณ๐ฐ๐ค๐ฆ๐ด๐ด. ๐คง
Venting is not feedback; people tend to label the venting as โauthenticโ and destroy the conversation.
+ If we want someone to embrace feedback so that they can improve,
+ Then, we need to embrace the spirit of tactfully directing.
+ It is possible to give input tactfully so that at the end of the day,
We canย foster respectย for each other.
๐ฐ ๐ต๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐น๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ฒ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐
๐ผย ๐ก๐ผ๐ ๐ฃ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ผ๐ป๐ฎ๐น, ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ถ๐ป๐ฒ๐๐
+ The fact is, feedback is ๐ฟ๐ด๐๐๐พ๐ฝ๐ฐ๐ป๏ผ
+ As long as we are conversing with a person about them, it is ๐ฟ๐ด๐๐๐พ๐ฝ๐ฐ๐ป๏ผ
+ A Human Conversation is ๐ฟ๐ด๐๐๐พ๐ฝ๐ฐ๐ป๏ผ
Conclusion?
Sometimes, humans are too lazy to think before they speak ๐
Anyone intelligent enough knows how to speak intelligently.
๐ด๐๐๐๐ข ๐ต๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ธ๐ ๐ฟ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๏ผ ๐ท๐๐๐๐๏ผโฆย
๐ย ๐๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฑ๐ฏ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐๐ ๐๐ฎ๐๐ ๐ช๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐ช๐ฒ ๐๐ฎ๐ป ๐๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น ๐๐ถ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐ฎ ๐๐๐บ๐ฎ๐ป
There are tons of programmes on feedback, and we are far from giving one empowering one.
While the why and how is important, one of the most critical questions to ask oneself is,
“๐ธ๐ ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ธ ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ข ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ข๏ผ”
Anyone should feel empowered and motivated to want to do something after hearing your feedback.
Feedback is about that human, so bring the word human into your feedback today.
๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐.ย ๐ฑ๐ ๐ ๐ท๐๐๐๐๏ผ
And The Lack of Tact Award Goes To… ๐คฃ
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