Stop Using Authenticity As An Excuse

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A friend at work shares that she receives blunt feedback from her boss.

She was offended not by the feedback but by her boss’s tonality and directness.

During the conversation, the boss kept saying she was just being authentic and nothing personal.

She shared that she could have done it moreย ๐—ง๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ณ๐˜‚๐—น๐—น๐˜† ๐——๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜,ย and she would gladly receive the feedback and take action.

She lost the respect of her boss, and her boss had lost the trust of a member in the name of authenticity.

 

๐Ÿ”ฅย  ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฆ๐—ฝ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ง๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ณ๐˜‚๐—น๐—น๐˜† ๐——๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜

Being authentic does not give the person the right to speak whatever is on their mind.

๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ, ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ฉ ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ข ๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ป๐˜บ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด. ๐Ÿคง

Venting is not feedback; people tend to label the venting as โ€œauthenticโ€ and destroy the conversation.

+ If we want someone to embrace feedback so that they can improve,

+ Then, we need to embrace the spirit of tactfully directing.

+ It is possible to give input tactfully so that at the end of the day,

We canย foster respectย for each other.

๐™ฐ ๐™ต๐šŽ๐šŽ๐š๐š‹๐šŠ๐šŒ๐š” ๐š ๐š’๐š๐š‘๐š˜๐šž๐š ๐š๐šŽ๐šœ๐š™๐šŽ๐šŒ๐š ๐š’๐šœ ๐™น๐šž๐šœ๐š ๐šŠ ๐šƒ๐š›๐šŠ๐š—๐šœ๐šŠ๐šŒ๐š๐š’๐š˜๐š—๐šŠ๐š• ๐™ฒ๐š˜๐š—๐šŸ๐šŽ๐š›๐šœ๐šŠ๐š๐š’๐š˜๐š—

 

๐Ÿ’ผย  ๐—ก๐—ผ๐˜ ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น, ๐—๐˜‚๐˜€๐˜ ๐—•๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€

+ The fact is, feedback is ๐™ฟ๐™ด๐š๐š‚๐™พ๐™ฝ๐™ฐ๐™ป๏ผŽ

+ As long as we are conversing with a person about them, it is ๐™ฟ๐™ด๐š๐š‚๐™พ๐™ฝ๐™ฐ๐™ป๏ผŽ

+ A Human Conversation is ๐™ฟ๐™ด๐š๐š‚๐™พ๐™ฝ๐™ฐ๐™ป๏ผŽ

Conclusion?

Sometimes, humans are too lazy to think before they speak ๐Ÿ˜…

Anyone intelligent enough knows how to speak intelligently.

๐™ด๐šŸ๐šŽ๐š›๐šข ๐™ต๐šŽ๐šŽ๐š๐š‹๐šŠ๐šŒ๐š” ๐™ธ๐šœ ๐™ฟ๐šŽ๐š›๐šœ๐š˜๐š—๐šŠ๐š•๏ผŽ ๐™ท๐šŽ๐š•๐š•๐š˜๏ผโ€ฆย 

 

๐Ÿ˜˜ย  ๐—™๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐—ฏ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ธ ๐—œ๐˜€ ๐—˜๐—ฎ๐˜€๐˜† ๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ช๐—ฒ ๐—–๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—™๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐—Ÿ๐—ถ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ ๐—›๐˜‚๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ป

There are tons of programmes on feedback, and we are far from giving one empowering one.

While the why and how is important, one of the most critical questions to ask oneself is,

๐™ธ๐šœ ๐š ๐š‘๐šŠ๐š ๐™ธ ๐š ๐š’๐š•๐š• ๐šœ๐šŠ๐šข ๐š๐š˜๐š’๐š—๐š ๐š๐š˜ ๐š–๐š˜๐š๐š’๐šŸ๐šŠ๐š๐šŽ ๐š๐š‘๐šŽ ๐š™๐šŽ๐š›๐šœ๐š˜๐š— ๐š๐š˜ ๐š๐š˜ ๐šœ๐š˜๐š–๐šŽ๐š๐š‘๐š’๐š—๐š ๐šŠ๐š‹๐š˜๐šž๐š ๐š’๐š ๐š™๐š˜๐šœ๐š’๐š๐š’๐šŸ๐šŽ๐š•๐šข๏ผŸ”

Anyone should feel empowered and motivated to want to do something after hearing your feedback.

Feedback is about that human, so bring the word human into your feedback today.

๐š‚๐š๐š˜๐š™ ๐š…๐šŽ๐š—๐š๐š’๐š—๐š.ย ๐™ฑ๐šŽ ๐šŠ ๐™ท๐šž๐š–๐šŠ๐š—๏ผŽ

And The Lack of Tact Award Goes To… ๐Ÿคฃ

 

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